Preacher's Pulpit by Dr. Joe Tims

Ten Commandments #5: Honoring Your Father and Mother

Exodus 20:12


To understand how God feels about this commandment one only has to look at the following verses:

(Exo 21:15, 17) "And he that smiteth his father or his mother, shall be surely put to death. (17) And he that curseth his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death."

Our court system ought to look at this when they say, "Children ought not to be punished for crimes they commit!"

There is a vast difference in today's youth and the youth of Moses' time.

Times have changed and family life is not as it was then.

The mobility, women working and freedom of our age have broken the family ties and changed the concept of the Bible Home.

The modern day child cannot see the Bible concept of the Home because of his lifestyle.


Why Do I need a home when I was born in hospital, educated in a college, courted in an automobile, married in a church, live out of a delicatessen,  spend my free time in the movies and when I die I'll have my funeral at a funeral home? All I need is garage to park my car.

But the fact remains that the HOME is still the hope of our nation.

If we are to survive as a nation we must notice this FIFTH COMMANDMENT with the same importance that God saw in giving it.

This principle has not changed.

There are three things we need to see from this commandment.


A. Most young people think that the Fifth Commandment really means "Humor thy father and thy mother."

B. The Duke of Windsor once remarked that "the thing that impresses me most about America is the way parents obey their children."

C. This is the first mark of a society that is departing from God. (Isa 3:4) "And I will give children to be their princes and babes shall rule over them."

D. Jesus set the example for children honoring their parents in the first 30 years of His life. (Luke 2:51b) "and was subject unto them.."

E. Our young people need to learn this for their own good and happiness.

F. Young people should obey their parents because:

1. They know what is best from experience.

2. They want what is best in the Lord for their children.

G. Time is running out and your parents will be gone before you realize it!

H. An expensive casket, a costly marker and a profusion of flowers will mean nothing to them.

I. It's your obeying them NOW they need to see and hear.


(Eph 6:4) "And, ye fathers provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord."

A. One is tempted to add to the commandment to make it read, "...Parents, be worthy of your children's honor."

B. We must love our children and raise them according to the Word of God.

C. Love has many different obligations:

1. To expect honor, we as parents must be honorable before them (2 Cor 5:17).

2. We must disciple them and stop this do-as-you-please, permissive child raising! (Isa 3:12) "As for my people, children are their oppressors..."

3. We must provide for them both spiritual and physical. (Eph 6:4b) "but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the

D. Actually we usually get from our children what we have sown. (Gal 6:7) "Be not deceive; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap."


(Eph 6:1-3) "Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. (2) Honour thy father and mother: which is the first commandment with promise. (3) That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth."

A. This "long life" has several meanings.

B. It means long life for the Individual, the community, the church and the nation as a whole.

C. One of the reasons the Jewish nation has stood the trials of its existance is the strong family unit they have.

D. Because Israel gave heed to the Fifth Commandment and developed a strong and beautiful family relationship she still has vitality as a people.

E. America must turn back to the family unit or suffer complete judgment from God


Dr. Andrew Osborn said in His study of communities, "That where children lack the spirit of reverence, where parents fail to give their children religious instructions and where children ignore or despise the parents, there are seeds of decay everywhere. Home, church, school and community." How long are we to ignore God's warning about the home?