TEXT: Romans 12:17-21
SUB: Forgiveness: Our Obligation
Forgiveness is at the very foundation of our Christian faith.
Without forgiveness we would not have salvation by faith.
Even though forgiveness is at the very center of our faith, it is the
one thing we seem to have
the most difficulty doing.
Sometimes it seems as if Christians are the most unforgiving people.
When studying forgiveness, we first must see that:
GOD HAS FORGIVEN US
When God forgave us of our sins:
The Bible says that He remembered them no more.
(Heb 8:12) "For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their
sins and their
iniquities will I remember no more."
This means that they no longer exist.
Only God has the ability to take away sins.
When He forgives us, they are actually removed.
This is why the Jews said that Jesus blasphemed when He said, "your
sins are forgiven."
(Mat 9:2) "And, behold, they brought to him a man sick of the palsy,
lying on a bed: and
Jesus seeing their faith said unto the sick of the palsy; Son, be of good cheer; thy
sins be forgiven thee."
Since God has forgiven us:
WE MUST FORGIVE OTHERS
When we forgive others:
We don't actually remove the sin like God does, but we imitate God by
refusing to remember the sin.
When we forgive:
That means we will not bring it up to that person again.
We will not bring it up to anyone else.
We will not bring it up to ourselves and dwell on it.
This sounds like a fairly easy thing to do, but why do we have such a hard
time doing it?
Because we want to punish those who hurt us.
(Rom 12:17) "Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest
in the sight
of all men."
(vs.17) Man's heart is sinful, and the first thing that he desires to do
is to strike back when he is hurt or violated.(example: someone hits
us, cheats us, lies, etc...)
Because we think so highly of ourselves, that we think we need to
re-establish our position. ("who do you think you are talking to?")
This is caused by pride that is still left in our hearts.
We don't have enough faith to let God handle the situation, so we try
to handle it ourselves.
How many times must we forgive someone for sinning against us?
Peter asked Jesus the same question, implying that a person only
deserved so many chances.
What was the reply of Jesus?
An infinite number of times! (70x7)
Another good answer could be "you forgive the other person as
many times as God has forgiven you."
WHAT DOES UNFORGIVENESS DO TO US?
It keeps us in
We keep turning over and over this hurt in our mind, always keeping it
fresh, always ready to strike out again.
It is a vicious cycle.
A bitter person is always angry about something.
It keeps us in
bondage to past mistakes.
If we don't forgive, we are always living in some past hurt.
We constantly re-live it in our minds.
We never seem to get free from the anger. (even when we want to.)
It keeps us in
A Christian who lives in the bondage of unforgiveness is also living in guilt.
He knows that he must forgive, but he also knows that he doesn't want to.
He carries this weight around with him, not being able to get rid of it.
It is a cause
problems for us.
Physically (such as ulcers)
Mentally (sustained anger will cause you to become mentally sick)
And spiritually (unforgiveness will cause you to drift away from God)
HOW DO WE FORGIVE SOMEONE THAT HURT US SO BADLY?
(Rom 12:20) "Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst,
give him drink:
for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head."
We stop thinking
of those who hurt us as enemies, and we start to honestly seek
God for their good.
We need to earnestly pray for blessings in their lives.
It is very difficult to be angry or unforgiving towards someone whom you
are earnestly praying for!
We look to God
as our example.
Could you forgive someone who killed your only son? God did.
He does not allow the sin to be remembered anymore.
We look to Jesus
as our example.
What did Jesus say while he was hanging on the Cross?
While He was experiencing the worst pain a person could experience?
While the blood was dripping from His hands, and His flesh was tearing at
He said, "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do."
If Jesus could forgive those who were killing Him, we must forgive those who have hurt us.
It was our sins that nailed Him to that tree: your sins and mine.
We serve a forgiving God.
And the root of His love is forgiveness.
How we view forgiveness will effect our relationship with Him, and with those around us.
If we wish to be spiritually healthy, if we wish to be free of condemnation,
then we must
forgive those who hurt us.
Do we need to experience the forgiveness of God today?
You can, if you will come to Him in faith accepting the finished work
of Christ on Calvary as
the atonement for your sins.
You can know His wonderful forgiveness.
Do we need to demonstrate the forgiveness of God today?
Break the bonds of unforgiveness today and be ready to forgive that one who has hurt you.
It might be a family member, coworker, fellow church member, whoever it might be.
Will you be willing to forgive?
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